12.17.07
Posted in Personal, Social at 3:26 am by BartonG
A friend of mine, John, works for a company that manages digital disaster recovery. John is part of the sales team and gives a sales training on Fridays. This weekend he asked me to come along and give my two cents.
I promptly accepted. I didn’t really know what John wanted me to focus on until a few days before the meeting, but I feel that almost all public speaking is great self-development. When John revealed my full topic it got my attention. “Why is gaming girls important and how does it applies to sales?”.
I chose a different title, but I tried to stay true to what he wanted. I had 30 minutes to teach 16 guys about their connection to the feminine, a daunting task for me because when I do teach about it, I normally address the subject over the span of weeks, or at least hours, but not minutes.
I set out to prepare the best I could. If I were to speak for hours, I wouldn’t need much prep time, but if I’m to give a focused 30 minutes presentation, I feel that two weeks wouldn’t be enough. It’s tough to jam every last ounce of meaning into a speech. In a long period of time you can make sure to convey all the angles, but in 30 minutes you can barely scratch the surface unless you craft your speech.
After some consideration, I conceded that I didn’t have the time to laboriously construct something anyway, and relaxed. It wasn’t as if I’d be giving the commencement talk at Yale. Still, I love to teach and present, so I didn’t slack off either.
When the time came, I put down my notes and spoke from the heart. I thought things went well, and afterwards John told me that it was the best training they had, which was a nice thing to say. Who knows? I enjoyed the opportunity and felt good about the whole thing.
If you’re curious, below I’ve put down a combination of some of the notes I used to prepare my presentation and some of what I said at the meeting. Although there is some material missing, I still think you can glean much good from it. If you attended the training and have some questions, by all means ask!
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10.23.07
Posted in Personal, Social at 6:48 pm by BartonG
Warning: Do not read this post if you are my wife. It contains sensitive information that will again reveal what a scoundrel I was (and still am). You know I am a pig. No need to rub it in. And no, this is not about losing my virginity.
I was reflecting on life before marriage and remembered a grand anecdote. Grand? Yea, awesome. Huge. Beautiful. Monolithic*. At the time, it was like a heavy bout of airplane turbulence that causes items in your suitcase to dramatically be arranged differently. It’s strange that I haven’t told anybody about it yet.
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10.17.07
Posted in Social at 3:30 pm by BartonG
When I think of how to teach guys to increase the quality of their results, I usually give advice centered around what I loosely term, ‘organic methods of pua’. From www.webster.com , I highlight the meanings “forming an integral element of a whole; fundamental … having systematic coordination of parts”. Another word that describes my pua philosophy currently is holistic. I like a lot of ideas from natural and direct game. If you’ve traveled down the road of PUA and haven’t quite found what you’re looking for, try out an organic, holistic approach with these five pieces of counsel and associated tips. You’ll notice that each theme plays on the others a little bit. I think you’ll find them refreshing.
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09.27.07
Posted in Personal, Social at 9:31 am by BartonG
I’ve been asked, “How can you be mormon and a PUA?”. For those who don’t know, a “mormon” is someone who belongs to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, or the lds church. “PUA”, is an acronym of ‘pick up artist’ or ‘pick up arts’ - someone who is involved with meeting and attracting women. It’s been interesting mix, as they are a huge part of who I am. In a way, outside of the influence my immediate family, they’ve defined who I am more than anything else.
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09.15.07
Posted in Personal, Social at 11:30 am by BartonG
“As to methods there may be a million and then some, but principles are few. The man who grasps principles can successfully select his own methods. The man who tries methods, ignoring principles, is sure to have trouble.”
- Ralph W. Emerson
My friend Mark was generous and flew me up to beautiful Fort Collins Colorado for “New West Fest”. The reason was two-fold: I came up to have an absolutely great time and to share my particular flavor of dating wisdom. It was with a little trepidation that I accepted the invitation to go because after getting married, I didn’t really go out with the guys the same way I used to. Mark and I met while on an occasion where a bunch of my friends and I were out trying to get girls. I’ve had an unusually successful dating life and a few people have noticed enough to ask for my thoughts, and I used to do a little in-field dating coaching. Basically, the Toby Keith song came into my mind, “I aint as good as I once was”*. Was I a washed up version of Will Smith’s Hitch?
When Mark picked me up from the airport and wasn’t too long before it was time to go game some girls.
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08.12.07
Posted in Social at 6:24 pm by BartonG
The frustration of the situation is common. You meet somebody cute/hot/interesting, and you get their phone number, telling each other you’re going to go out. Then you don’t. Maybe you call once, make tentative plans, then they fall through. Maybe you never get past voice mail. Maybe, they just call last minute to flake on the date.
Here’s my take: You cannot control another person, so don’t tear up because things didn’t pan out like you’d hoped. However, there are several things that can help - having approach congruency, working the daytime scene, and using the scientific method.
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06.04.07
Posted in Social at 2:44 pm by BartonG
Lipsciences.com’s first podcast.
A big part of my life is social development. I was in and out of “the seduction community” and heavily preoccupied with the opposite sex (and how to obtain their affection). I occasionally get some questions about the dating game, and I love sharing what I have to know about the subject. For a quick overview, look below at the synopsis.
Why can’t physics also be fun?
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